[Two Pronged] Worried my son is getting gym-obsessed because his dad came back

Rappler’s People section runs an advice column by couple Jeremy Baer and clinical psychologist Dr. Margarita Holmes.

Jeremy has a master’s degree in law from Oxford University. A banker of 37 years who worked in three continents, he has been training with Dr. Holmes for the last 10 years as co-lecturer and, occasionally, as co-therapist, especially with clients whose financial concerns intrude into their daily lives.

Together, they have written two books: Love Triangles: Understanding the Macho-Mistress Mentality and Imported Love: Filipino-Foreign Liaisons.

Dear Dr Holmes and Mr Baer,

I am the mother of a 14-year old boy, “Percy,” my unico hijo and the reason I wake up in the morning. From the time he was born to now, he has been the biggest blessing in my life. I was a single mother and had no problem with that until his father Ahron came back into our lives (HIS life, really, but this affects me too). Anything that has to do with him, of course, has to do with me because he is my son and I have sole responsibility for him.

I was ok when Ahron first showed up because every boy needs a male role model and before his father, Percy never really had one.